Acceptance

Do you accept yourself as you really are?  Are you prepared to do it?

In order to find the life of your dreams, you have to be willing to live it!  When we shame ourselves, we hide ourselves.

What would accepting your body look like?  What if you knew that, your weight would never change from what it is now?  How would you act and feel?

Initially, you might feel depressed or sad if you are unhappy with your body.  But you have a choice.  You CAN embrace your body - as it is. right now.  I know you can because I DID.  It wasn't easy at first.  But then it became fun.

That is what EMB asks you to do!  Embrace your body as it is now.  Stop waiting to live life.  Stop waiting to date, go dancing, workout, get a new job, move, travel because you have weight that you want to lose.  Instead, I dare you to do ALL of it, without trying to first lose weight.

What you'll find, as I did, is once you live life and stop obsessing over your body, you find more joy and pleasure than you ever believed was possible!

Embrace Your Body today!

Daniela

Fear of being fat

what do you do if you constantly fear that you'll be fat?


I get asked this question very often. And what I found is that the more you fear weight gain, the more you draw that to you. Have you ever heard of the law of  attraction? Often times we attract the things that we dwell on most. The more you think about how big your thighs are or how many calories this chocolate bar you're eating has, the more likely you're going to eat more, dwell on it more, and subsequently, gain weight.

So what does EMB prescribe? Well, just embrace your body. I know it sounds simple. I know it sounds a little crazy. And I know it's exactly the opposite of what you feel like doing. But it's the healthy way out. Hundreds of studies have shown that people who diet or worry about their weight tend to struggle with their weight. But those people embrace their bodies don't.

You should ask yourself this: what would I do if I had the body I really want? What would I do if I just embraced the body I have now.

Then list of all the things you would do if you were only thinner or if only you could control your diet. And then go out and do those things.   I know it's scary because you think that first you have to have the body of your dreams to in order to live life. But in reality when we live life the way were meant to, we will gain the body of our dreams.

Crazy Times

     When life gets hard, how do you handle it? I've been struggling lately because life really has been hard. I found myself working in a job that did not allow for a good work-life balance. I did not have time or energy to exercise.  I wasn't sleeping enough. And, honestly, I didn't really like what I did. I noticed that I began to see signs of a lack of body-love creeping back into my life.
      I took a long, hard look at my life and realized I was overcommitted. Not only was I full-time in graduate school but I was also working sometimes more than 25 hours per week. I just couldn't do it. I became a ball of stress. I realized that it was more important to me you finish school strong then continue at a job that wasn't serving me. And the major way for me to realize all this, was because I noticed my binge eating habits were creeping back into my life. It scares me that they still affect me even years after starting to embrace my body. I guess for me, whenever they creep back into my life it's a sure sign I am either doing too much or doing things that don't align with my true spirit. I think this situation was a little bit of both. So, I resigned from my job today. Luckily, I'm in a position where I'm able to do that. But it's been a major learning experience for me. I know it sounds extreme. But like I said, when I bench it really is a sign that I'm either doing something that's not right for me or I'm doing way too much. I mean, I went through a terrible terrible year and a nasty divorce and I never binged. I've had really really rough times in graduate school and I haven't binged.  But this job was not right for me and my reaction was binging...a major red flag.
    I realized what my boundaries are around work. For example, for me it's really important that I have time to exercise daily in the morning. This really helps me have a good mindset going into work. It's also important to me to have a somewhat calm work environment.
    Currently, many of my clothes have stopped fitting me. In the past this would've freaked me out. And to be honest sometimes it still does. But now I realize that the more energy and fear I place into not fitting into clothes will cause more guilt which will lead to binging which will lead to more guilt which will keep me from enjoying my body. So I've decided to buy clothes that fit me now. Ones I feel comfortable in and I feel beautiful in. I'm going to exercise daily because it makes me feel happy. I'm going to dress up daily because it makes me feel happy. And when I have thoughts that are self-defeating and body hating,  I'm going to let those thoughts go and replace them with healthy happy ones.

Cheers to a New Chapter!
Daniela