During graduate school, I was required to write "smart" goals. Smart stands for "Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound." I think they are BS. You're goals don't have to be "realistic." This limited thinking keeps you from achieving things you really want in life and allowing life/God/Universe to bring to you whatever your heart truly desires!
So this year, let's set some UNREALISTIC goals! I think you'll be surprised what can happen if you let yourself dream and believe and ACT as if you'd already achieved these things. Trust me - this shit works!
I remember when I started EMB. I worked so hard at ACTING as if I had the body I truly wanted. I went from treating my body like crap, wearing clothes I didn't like just to hide my shape and being introverted around men to all the opposite. I asked myself - how would I act if I were in the body of my dreams? Honestly? HOW WOULD YOUR LIFE BE DIFFERENT?
Personally, that meant wearing clothes I loved (and fit me), flirting, making eye contact, finding exercise I enjoyed like dancing and swimming (not the crap I made myself do to lose weight).
That meant I bought a whole new wardrobe, signed up for dance classes, and started to make conversations.
I acted as if I had what I wanted, and the Universe delivered exactly what I did want.
Act as if, and BELIEVE! Let's get ready for 2016! Your best year EVER!
Daniela
Thursday, December 31, 2015
Sunday, December 27, 2015
Impatience
So, I've been thinking.
This post isn't directly about food. But with Binge Eating Disorder (aka w/e you want to call it), almost everything is related to food.
So let's talk about patience...or lack thereof.
What in your life is not flowing? How are you doing with that?
Maybe you want to manifest a new relationship, job, house, career, car...do you even know?
I challenge you to take some time today...sit down and WRITE. Write down your goals for 2016. Take risks. Write down some crazy shit goals that seem out of your reach and watch the Universe (or God, or Spirit, or whatever) provide those things for you in the most unexpected ways.
Stay open. Stay present. Breathe. Write. Have faith. Not in yourself. Not even in the EMB program. But in your Higher Power (Self/God/etc).
Have faith friends. Trust me, it will get better.
Email me anytime! I love hearing from you-
Daniela
This post isn't directly about food. But with Binge Eating Disorder (aka w/e you want to call it), almost everything is related to food.
So let's talk about patience...or lack thereof.
What in your life is not flowing? How are you doing with that?
Maybe you want to manifest a new relationship, job, house, career, car...do you even know?
I challenge you to take some time today...sit down and WRITE. Write down your goals for 2016. Take risks. Write down some crazy shit goals that seem out of your reach and watch the Universe (or God, or Spirit, or whatever) provide those things for you in the most unexpected ways.
Stay open. Stay present. Breathe. Write. Have faith. Not in yourself. Not even in the EMB program. But in your Higher Power (Self/God/etc).
Have faith friends. Trust me, it will get better.
Email me anytime! I love hearing from you-
Daniela
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Wanting what we don't have
Sometimes the grass seems like it would be greener on the other side of the fence.
If only I were .....
There are so many ways to finish this sentance but none of them will bring happiness now. And life really is too short to wish and want something you don't have.
You could waste so much time wanting whatever it is you want...to be thinner, to be married, to have a different job.
What if you stopped living as if the answer was outside somewhere.
What if you started living as if you had to body you wanted.
I applied this to my life and eventually it helped me end up having the body I wanted.
I recently applied this to my love life. What would I do differently if I were in a relationship? I'd feel more content, relaxed and supported. So I tried to cultivate those qualities. I started to smile at people more. I trusted in God to provide for my needs, which left me feeling more relaxed. And ya know what?! I started to attract more and more men! Seriously, it was like they were coming out of the woodwork within 7 days of acting "as if."
What is it that you want? How can you start acting as if you already had it?
Daniela
If only I were .....
There are so many ways to finish this sentance but none of them will bring happiness now. And life really is too short to wish and want something you don't have.
You could waste so much time wanting whatever it is you want...to be thinner, to be married, to have a different job.
What if you stopped living as if the answer was outside somewhere.
What if you started living as if you had to body you wanted.
I applied this to my life and eventually it helped me end up having the body I wanted.
I recently applied this to my love life. What would I do differently if I were in a relationship? I'd feel more content, relaxed and supported. So I tried to cultivate those qualities. I started to smile at people more. I trusted in God to provide for my needs, which left me feeling more relaxed. And ya know what?! I started to attract more and more men! Seriously, it was like they were coming out of the woodwork within 7 days of acting "as if."
What is it that you want? How can you start acting as if you already had it?
Daniela
Monday, February 2, 2015
But I feel fat!
Okay, I'll admit it! Sometimes I talk to myself. Here is an excerpt from a recent conversation I had with...myself.
"I want to go dancing tonight! I love to dance!"
But you feel so fat right now! None of your clothes will fit.
I tried on a few things, and yes, they felt too tight. It might be that I've gained some weight recently and it might be that I'm a bit bloated (I've been eating more fiber than normal).
I had two options - one, stay in on a Saturday night and isolate myself. Two - put on an outfit that does fit, dress up, put a smile on my face and go dancing! What would I do if I were as thin as I wanted to be? Of course I'd dance!
Can you guess which one I chose?
One of the hardest parts of learning to embrace my body and following the program was that I had to live as if...I had the body I wanted. And eventually, by living that way, I did have the body I wanted. Sure I ended up losing some weight. But I also came to accept my body and enjoy it as it was. That changed my life.
That doesn't mean that it's always easy. I recently went through the worst year of my life - divorce, betrayal, a job I hated, and intense pressure from other sources. I found myself completely imbalanced, burnt out, and hungry all of the time. I also became very sad and I didn't have the time or energy to be active. My old behaviors (thoughts - self-defeating) came back to me. And I knew I was close to falling down the rabbit hole. But I chose NOT to. I reevaluated my life. I found a job that offers more flexibility (and pays less), I slept more, I started going to therapy. I found balance and I found my way back to intuitive eating via the embrace my body program.
What's funny is that, when I created EMB, I hadn't struggled with intuitive eating in years. I thought I'd never have issues again...boy was I wrong. I am SO THANKFUL I created EMB because now I am actually, humbly, using it again to find my way back to a healthy relationship with my body.
Hug yourself and GO DANCING!
Daniela Ketalam
"I want to go dancing tonight! I love to dance!"
But you feel so fat right now! None of your clothes will fit.
I tried on a few things, and yes, they felt too tight. It might be that I've gained some weight recently and it might be that I'm a bit bloated (I've been eating more fiber than normal).
I had two options - one, stay in on a Saturday night and isolate myself. Two - put on an outfit that does fit, dress up, put a smile on my face and go dancing! What would I do if I were as thin as I wanted to be? Of course I'd dance!
Can you guess which one I chose?
That's me!
One of the hardest parts of learning to embrace my body and following the program was that I had to live as if...I had the body I wanted. And eventually, by living that way, I did have the body I wanted. Sure I ended up losing some weight. But I also came to accept my body and enjoy it as it was. That changed my life.
That doesn't mean that it's always easy. I recently went through the worst year of my life - divorce, betrayal, a job I hated, and intense pressure from other sources. I found myself completely imbalanced, burnt out, and hungry all of the time. I also became very sad and I didn't have the time or energy to be active. My old behaviors (thoughts - self-defeating) came back to me. And I knew I was close to falling down the rabbit hole. But I chose NOT to. I reevaluated my life. I found a job that offers more flexibility (and pays less), I slept more, I started going to therapy. I found balance and I found my way back to intuitive eating via the embrace my body program.
What's funny is that, when I created EMB, I hadn't struggled with intuitive eating in years. I thought I'd never have issues again...boy was I wrong. I am SO THANKFUL I created EMB because now I am actually, humbly, using it again to find my way back to a healthy relationship with my body.
Hug yourself and GO DANCING!
Daniela Ketalam
Monday, January 19, 2015
Acceptance
Do you accept yourself as you really are? Are you prepared to do it?
In order to find the life of your dreams, you have to be willing to live it! When we shame ourselves, we hide ourselves.
What would accepting your body look like? What if you knew that, your weight would never change from what it is now? How would you act and feel?
Initially, you might feel depressed or sad if you are unhappy with your body. But you have a choice. You CAN embrace your body - as it is. right now. I know you can because I DID. It wasn't easy at first. But then it became fun.
That is what EMB asks you to do! Embrace your body as it is now. Stop waiting to live life. Stop waiting to date, go dancing, workout, get a new job, move, travel because you have weight that you want to lose. Instead, I dare you to do ALL of it, without trying to first lose weight.
What you'll find, as I did, is once you live life and stop obsessing over your body, you find more joy and pleasure than you ever believed was possible!
Embrace Your Body today!
Daniela
In order to find the life of your dreams, you have to be willing to live it! When we shame ourselves, we hide ourselves.
What would accepting your body look like? What if you knew that, your weight would never change from what it is now? How would you act and feel?
Initially, you might feel depressed or sad if you are unhappy with your body. But you have a choice. You CAN embrace your body - as it is. right now. I know you can because I DID. It wasn't easy at first. But then it became fun.
That is what EMB asks you to do! Embrace your body as it is now. Stop waiting to live life. Stop waiting to date, go dancing, workout, get a new job, move, travel because you have weight that you want to lose. Instead, I dare you to do ALL of it, without trying to first lose weight.
What you'll find, as I did, is once you live life and stop obsessing over your body, you find more joy and pleasure than you ever believed was possible!
Embrace Your Body today!
Daniela
Saturday, January 10, 2015
Fear of being fat
what do you do if you constantly fear that you'll be fat?
I get asked this question very often. And what I found is that the more you fear weight gain, the more you draw that to you. Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? Often times we attract the things that we dwell on most. The more you think about how big your thighs are or how many calories this chocolate bar you're eating has, the more likely you're going to eat more, dwell on it more, and subsequently, gain weight.
So what does EMB prescribe? Well, just embrace your body. I know it sounds simple. I know it sounds a little crazy. And I know it's exactly the opposite of what you feel like doing. But it's the healthy way out. Hundreds of studies have shown that people who diet or worry about their weight tend to struggle with their weight. But those people embrace their bodies don't.
You should ask yourself this: what would I do if I had the body I really want? What would I do if I just embraced the body I have now.
Then list of all the things you would do if you were only thinner or if only you could control your diet. And then go out and do those things. I know it's scary because you think that first you have to have the body of your dreams to in order to live life. But in reality when we live life the way were meant to, we will gain the body of our dreams.
I get asked this question very often. And what I found is that the more you fear weight gain, the more you draw that to you. Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? Often times we attract the things that we dwell on most. The more you think about how big your thighs are or how many calories this chocolate bar you're eating has, the more likely you're going to eat more, dwell on it more, and subsequently, gain weight.
So what does EMB prescribe? Well, just embrace your body. I know it sounds simple. I know it sounds a little crazy. And I know it's exactly the opposite of what you feel like doing. But it's the healthy way out. Hundreds of studies have shown that people who diet or worry about their weight tend to struggle with their weight. But those people embrace their bodies don't.
You should ask yourself this: what would I do if I had the body I really want? What would I do if I just embraced the body I have now.
Then list of all the things you would do if you were only thinner or if only you could control your diet. And then go out and do those things. I know it's scary because you think that first you have to have the body of your dreams to in order to live life. But in reality when we live life the way were meant to, we will gain the body of our dreams.
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